This is not a recent thought had written this down on my way back from Chennai, where I had gone for work and attended a wedding accidentally.
Weddings bring a lot of memories for everyone.....
Happy for some, sad for some... smile for some , a tear for some... regret for some, relief for some..
I have always been the hopeless romantic, always trusting and hopeful about love AND the good in people..... Even if I am not optimistic about other things, I have been the most optimistic about LOVE!!
I believe... if you love, then love with all the ZOOPLAH ZANG!!!....... Otherwise just call it lust, need, societal pressure... WHATEVER... BUT DEFINATELY NOT LOVE!
Anyway so I attended a wedding of a couple, a very odd one, I have ever come across.. I knew them as individuals and never imagined they would hook up...... and no matter how much I wanted to be happy for them......The cynic in me kept saying.... wwhhaattt were they thinking???
WHY ARE THESE TWO GETTING MARRIED TO EACH OTHER, when they have the option to be happy!! Is this a big love facade... but why do they need these facades????
We are all adults, we can handle things... she can say I am getting old and need companionship and he can say I can’t get Hot Guys (oops girls) anymore
But why print information on wedding cards and call it LOVE (Because love transforms people and changes lives and molecules and ORIENTATIONS........and all the bullshit)
Let’s say, they are getting married because of Companionship... but how do you sustain a relationship just on companionship and a comfort zone????
What is a relationship without the butterflies and the passion, the chemistry????? And all the ZOOPLAH ZANG, which happens when you not only love the person but also you also want to have them!!!
Doesn’t this Zooplah Zang... get you through the years when all the love fades away.. atleast you have the memories and they are enough to get you through your life happily together......
What does it take for a relationship to work ‘Till death do us apart’? No wonder most singles have more long term success with friends, so maybe it’s a better strategy to marry a friend.
But there are some of us, who don’t have the feeling of ZOOPLAH ZANG with a friend and if we still go ahead with the relationship only based on the companionship and the comfort zone, What happens after some years???? do we continue with the same feeling???? and then what distinguishes this companionship from your many other companions???
What is a relationship without the ZOOPLAH ZANG... can such a relation be a happily ever after one or will it end up in one of the other looking for love, companionship and sex outside (and I am not being cynical, the millions of extra marital affairs are a proof of this)
Or are all the people who don’t wait for the ZOOPLAH ZANG kind of love and marry just for companionship, societal pressure, fear of loneliness etc....... Are these people being pessimistic about love and settling for less????
Or are they justified, because maybe it’s not even advisable to be OPTIMISTIC after the age of 30, maybe pessimism is something we have to start applying daily like moisturiser.
The optimistic / hopeful in me wonders, what happens when reality batters your belief system and LOVE does not, as promised conquer all!! How do we bounce back... do we still keep hoping OR is hope a drug we need to go off on OR is it required to keep us alive?????
So, what’s the harm in believing????
As for me....... I am someone who is looking out for love... real love... ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, “can’t live without each other” love... “crazy for each other” love...The love with all the ZOOPLAH ZANG!!! And all the butterflies!!!
My recent cynicism has still not (thankfully) killed the romantic in me!!!!
So, whenever I attend such weddings and see couples who are in a relationship...... without the ZOOPLAH ZANG...
I can’t help but wonder...
That when it comes to relationships... (The happily ever after kinds)
Some have settled down...
Some are settling in...
And some people refuse to settle for anything less... but Butterflies!!!!
Smiles
Parveen
Everyone is not as ambitious about life and love so its ok to be insecure,lonely, succumb to the pressure of the society and
ReplyDelete"BE PRACTICAL".I guess they dont even know the
meaning of sweetness of friendship, the labour of work, sacrifice in love, the dont know the meaning of enthusiasm and curiosity. So forgive them :)
I myself dont know about hope being the right thing to cling on but there is no other way that works for me..i guess ZOOPLAH ZANG is the way to be ! :)
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ReplyDeletedid i ever tell you the story i heard many years back of the pretty bird who went with her new bird friend to meet her 2 friends across the bridge - stupid bird and coward bird ?
ReplyDeletestupid bird was not in the tree that day , but new bird friend couldn't help noticing pretty bird to be uncomfortable at that tree , and asked pretty bird " is there unfinished business with stupid bird ?"
unrelated bird story ... ;),But besides above, i would agree with nehal that it depends on what kind of bird one wants to be and the luck factor !!! ( x3 exclamations just like all your posts ;)
Some find the choosen bird easily , others with lots of difficulty , some find the bird and loses them , some find the bird but it turns out not to be " THE " but a sham . some keep looking for that elusive bird , and sadly there are also those who just make do with whatever bird in hand !
there are kinds of birds in the world >:D<
and by now... Nehal, idli and I... are the ZOOPLAH ZANG BIRDS!!!
ReplyDeleteHiii...as always loved it...but you know what we might wonder how can ppl hook up without the zooplah zang....??? But i m still waitin for a relationship...(not tryin to sound desperate..) but come on....it all depends on us.. whether we can create d zooplah zang in our relationshipss...right ?????? So welll hoping to experience the zooplah zang soon..... ;)
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