Thursday, June 24, 2010

Yes….. No….. I don’t Know!

Long long ago, there was a place called crazy land, beautiful angels lived there. These angels helped people reach their destination. They just loved and enjoyed their time in crazy land, there was just a small problem.....the angels talked too much and ate too much... every opportunity they had to eat or to talk,, they would just start, without any fear of the consequences…, which frequently landed them into trouble… Untill the day they got an ultimatum from the neighbours who lived in boringville, to shut the fuck up.. or get out of crazy land (unfortunately the way to crazy land was through boringville!!!)

The angels were heart broken... how could they even think of not talking... and one fine day they discovered these three magical words...

YES.... NO... I DONT KNOW....

If some of you are wondering what’s this all about... don’t rack your brains..... It’s only for the angels... and they are laughing right now...

Now back to what this should have originally been...

My view on Yes... No... I don’t know

It is a common know fact and a very popular saying that life is full of choices, you have options for everything.... Food, clothes, house, jobs, friends , love etc....

So I thought.. and like every normal human... I kept making these choices (few in some, many in some)...

The most obvious one being FOOD.. those who know me will know why!!

Clothes – the choice of food pretty much screwed and narrowed the choice of clothes... but occasionally I do try to Experiment and miserably fail.. those who have seen me on Saturday nights will know how!!

House: didn’t have much choice here.. now have 4... my house, mom’s house, bro’s house... and the place where I stay the most... WORKPLACE!! Which btw influences almost all the choices…

Jobs... in my case Job... let me not say much... those who know me ... will be laughing already.....

Friends – have always made the right choice and have some lovely people who I feel priveledged to call my close friends... (I think I make the best choice in friends)

But ironically the best one I had... decided to choose someone else...

Love – no problem here at all... I don’t choose... they choose me... and then misuse me (oh! Its rhymes) On a serious note..... I no more venture here!! I suck at it!!

Personally for me making a choice has always been a nightmare... however flexible and spontaneous I am.. or I believe I am... making a choice has never been easy... and the biggest reason is I hate change (I better accept this now).. and nothing wrong in that.. most people resist change and I am no different...

The difficulty is not dealing with my choice after its made (I am too stubborn and fiercely guard my choices) My major issue is to deal with the time before and during making my choice!!!

The above was the case till I discovered the 3 magic words...


If we really think about it ..... these can actually make choosing so easy... Only if we could just answer Yes / No / I don’t know.....our life would be less complicated, so simple... and we would be happy and at peace!!!

Our conscience would not prick so much as, instead of finding faults with people or giving an excuse to cheat...We could just say, “YES.... this is not working”.

We would not be addicted to substance or anything for that matter... if we had the courage to say NO!!

We wouldn’t lie or feel ashamed if we just said, “I don’t know”

These words are so simple.....yet so powerful!!!

So why can’t we muster up the courage..... and use... these 3 words.....which when added to any sentence make things so clear and easy to understand... for example...

Yes!! I love you

No! I can’t do this / can’t change for you

I don’t know .... give me sometime... or explain!!

And you don’t always have to use them in a sentence... they say a lot even when said alone...
YES !! YES!! YES!!! (Would sound so much better verbally!!!)

As for me... using these 3 words...

Helps me...
Save some money.... only the angels know how!!

Pushes me to my limits...
Yes, I will get this done.... will snap out of it!!
No, I wont give up..
I don’t know now... but will find out soon...

Lands me in Trouble
Yes you are gay
No, I am not
I don’t know how to get out of this!!

Makes me sad
Yes, I miss you
No, I will not make the first move
I don’t know why this is taking so much time!

Keeps me confused!!!
Yes, I want a partner!! (5 out of 7 days)
NO, I don’t want to get married!!
I Don’t know WHY !!!

And makes me happy!!!
Yes, I accept myself as I am
No, I won’t give up on Hope!!
I don’t know , why certain things happen to me...
But I know for sure... God will take care of me always!!

As for crazy land ... it’s still as crazy as it was... just that the angels have become wise.... and now they follow the golden rule....


Love always

Yes, people will comment
No, issues even if they didn’t
I don’t know, why I force people to comment on my post????


  1. I meant


  2. Absolutely loved it :-) You've put it so so so well... AWESOME!

  3. Yes,Yes,Yes...this is the best one ever..!!!!

    No..there is no doubt that you are a genius and have an unbeatable sense of humour.. :)

    I dont know....why but i want to take a print out of this and read it every day morning to give a fresh start to the day... ;)

    P.S : Luv you lots....for putting your thoughts into words and turning this into my "worktional anthem" !!!!

  4. whew this is gonna be tedious....

    but occasionally I do try to Experiment and miserably fail.. those who have seen me on Saturday nights will know how!!... TERE CHEHRE SE NAZAR NAHIN HATTI CLOTHES KOI KYA DEKHE... THOUGH I MUST ADMIT THE THOUSAND U SPEND ON UR ALDO ET AL IS QUITE NOTICEABLE HON 
    WORKPLACE!! Which btw influences almost all the choices… UR WURKPLACE LIMITS UR CHOICES DODO....
    the best one I had... decided to choose someone else... NOT IRONIC AT ALL.... U MADE UR CHOICE SHE HERS.... SIMPLE.....
    Makes me sad
    Yes, I miss you
    No, I will not make the first move
    I don’t know why this is taking so much time!
    **** im speechless.....
    2) “YES” i luv u
    3) “NO” ur mistaken.... i CAN change for u
    4) “I DONT KNOW”.... why you never find my writing worthy of commenting on.... (ive stopped mailin em to u)

  5. ditto my feelings with ami :) my writings arent worthy of your comments :(

  6. lets steer the hornest's nest ( see parveen )

    got a email the some time back from an aquaintance, a young lady , less so cos i meet parveen more often than i do her.

    she had someone fished my email from a common and contacted me cos she was thinking of visiting my side of the country.

    and eventually my phone number ... ( i know parveen , you must be raising your eyebrow - but this is just the start ...)

    and she messaged ...

    and called ...

    i was very surprised...

    a lil cautious ... ( that i am overly as always )

    that she would suddenly call me .

    It'll be too long to explain my surprise,but to cut it short , she's a barrister . a " pure " feminist by heart , attending international women's right conferences and feels very strongly on the subject. ready to sue/argue any guy she feels her rights baffled as a woman.

    you can draw the picture ... ( at least tha tthe 1st portrait she drew to me )

    hesitantly contact a common friend - who could n't stop laughing at this predicament. cos this friend saw the whole picture and enlightened me

    that the scene is she's got the "settling bug " and i happen to be a potential victim ... her demanor has caused lots of man scrambling when they meet her and the only ones who do hit on her are married , and not the settling type .

    and i was given a lecture on how 30 odd year girls are no longer like the say the 24 year ones who are looking for the perfect guy ( the 6 pack , jet setting , mr do it all , rich guy with perfect family ) . as they get older the demands get less.

    even if it's non 6 pack , a poor struggling student - in fact they will defend the choice more and become the greatest advocate !

    thats where i suddenly fit into the picture - a latent compromise as well older single guys are getting rarer , and the notion of being the 2nd wife is not so nice sounding ...

    quite a saga .

    so all hope is not left out on old single men ... :)

    in fact i wonder if older single can become even more choosy ...

    see alya's twin sister , the one with the sweetest voice can escape her sister's grip and contact me :)

  7. no wonder!!! And I thought you were only my back up option..
    To think of it, not bad at all... And one thing which you ought to know
    about the 30's something single women is when they actually make the choice... They do anything to make it happy and tied to them.. Sorry for using 'IT' (do u really think love comes here!!!)
    I would say go for it!!!

  8. as for older single men... The buggers always have a better choice than the older women...
    As for you... Ur an exception, coz u believe you have none!!!
    Incase the advocate thing works out... I'll be free december, plan the engagement then!!
    Incase it doesnt... Ur my back up choice after 40!! And u knw just 5 more years to go!!

  9. OMG ! a reply !!! that too personalised and with compliments ... from now on , you can certainly count on me to write on your blog .

    By the way, thanks a lot for allowing me to write my nonsense on yours :) If you write more often , i would certainly write more

    No no , I'm not about to tying the knot any time soon - see a few more years ... and i'll surely give you a 6 month notice :)

    take care

  10. Wow, the wise saga of Parveen finally boils down to 3 words. Good post, particularly the part where in you explain the application of these in your life ;)

    As you said, Life is about choices, and as long as an individual has the courage to make the right choice and accept responsibility for it, the angels will always be laughing ! :)